Building Your House (just for the ladies)

Sometimes we can get so bogged down with all the menial tasks that come with being wives and mothers – endless loads of laundry, dishes that seem to multiply, dust that doesn’t go away, and dirty diapers (need I say more?) – that we forget what an honor it is to serve God and our families by taking care of their needs.

The snowflakes that are steadily falling outside my kitchen window make me think of the countless blessings God has given me. In the quiet of this afternoon, I thank the Lord the privilege of being a wife to Justin and a mother to Isabelle and Jocelyn. My greatest desire is to bring Him honor and glory, even while I’m doing the dishes. 🙂

“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” – Proverbs 14:1

Whenever I drive past a construction site and catch a whiff of dirt and freshly cut wood, my mind flashes back to my childhood. My dad, who used to build houses for a living, would sometimes let me tag along with him on the job. While he worked, I would spend the afternoon exploring. I didn’t have a care in the world because I was with my father. Just being near him made me feel happy and safe and loved.

Anyone who has ever built a house from the ground up knows what a monumental task it is and that it doesn’t happen overnight. Building a house takes time, patience, and proper planning. The blueprint must be followed step by step, beginning with the foundation, in order for it to be completed successfully. Without a solid foundation, the house will eventually collapse.

The Bible makes it clear that as women, we are builders of the home. Our attitudes have a major impact on the lives of everyone in the family. If we are wise, we will create a loving atmosphere full of joy, peace, and security. On the other hand, if we are foolish, we have the potential to tear down the very home we are trying to build. Negativity, selfishness, and pride will crack the foundation. Strained relationships will cause the walls to crumble. Bitterness and anger will make the ceiling cave right in.

How do we live in wisdom and avoid the warning in Proverbs 14:1? The first step is to have a deep reverence for God. The Bible says, “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom (Proverbs 1:7).” A wise woman makes time with her Savior a priority. She has a passion for the Word and devotes herself to prayer. She loves the Lord with all that is within her.

Second, the wise woman clothes herself in humility. She is well aware of her need for the God’s help in all she does, and she depends upon Him every day for strength. She works tirelessly to fulfill the enormous responsibilities of being a wife and a mother. She considers the needs of others above her own. Although she is far from perfect, she strives to more like Jesus and puts her trust in Him. She praises God for His goodness toward her and is completely overwhelmed by the lavishness of His grace.

Finally, the wise woman relies on her Master Builder to guide her steps, for she understands that “unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain (Psalm 127:1).” She gives Him complete control and doesn’t worry about the details. She knows that her life is in God’s hands, and she refuses to give way to fear. She waits patiently on the Lord, realizing that building a Christ-centered home is a process that takes time. She lets God do the work, confident that He will carry out His perfect plan for her family despite mistakes she may make along the way. She rejoices in her calling because she knows that through serving her family, the Lord is shaping her into the woman He wants her to be.

Lord God, I want to be a wise woman, one who builds my house on Your firm foundation. Teach me how to create an atmosphere in our home that is filled with Your Presence. Show me how to serve my family in love, O Lord, so that they are drawn closer to You.


  1. God is good =) … found you via MBC!

  2. I’m excited about being in MBC. Just joined last night because a friend invited me. I’d never heard of it. Thanks for your encouragement and for your comment! 🙂