Matters of the Heart

“What you say flows from what is in your heart.” – Luke 6:45 NLT

Have you ever said something you regret? I have – many times. In fact, I did yesterday. I was disrespectful, unkind, and just plain rude to my husband. Earlier in the day, I had thanked God for Justin and prayed for him, but a few hours later, I assaulted him with my words.

As soon as the poison was released from my lips, I knew I’d made a terrible mistake. There was no sense of victory as I’d hoped. I didn’t feel as if I’d “won” the argument. Instead, I was disgusted and saddened by my behavior.

Where did all those damaging words come from? God’s Word says, “The things that come out of the mouth come from the heart (Matthew 15:18).” Anger and bitterness were swirling around inside of me, and our conversation provided the opportunity for those emotions to surface. Once they were red-hot and at a boil, they spewed forth out of my mouth, deeply wounding the one I love the most.

How can we keep our hearts clean and undefiled? How do we avoid damaging others with our careless words? Proverbs 4:23 gives us the answer: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” We guard our hearts by reading the Word and obeying it. Instead of allowing sinful thoughts to remain unchecked, we confess them to the Lord. We allow His love, joy, and peace to replace the negative attitudes that are festering inside us.

However, if we fail to protect the condition of our hearts and go too far with our words, God invites us to confess our sin to Him. Once He has purified us from that unrighteousness, though, it’s not necessary to wallow in guilt or self-loathing. We are clean. However, we do need to go to the person we’ve hurt and restore the relationship. Even though we can’t take back what we’ve said, we must humble ourselves and ask for forgiveness.

Ask the Lord right now if there are any sinful attitudes in your heart that need to be laid on the altar. If so, leave them there so that you may speak life to those you love today.


  1. This was a timely read for me. Thank you so much for posting & the much needed encouragement. God bless you. JenT

  2. Jen, thanks for your comment and thanks for visiting the blog! May God bless you richly as you seek Him. 🙂